Perfectionism

There are those of us that separate being ‘good’ as being good enough, and anything beyond that is just ‘unnecessary’. It’s really about getting around the floor, and if no one complains about the embrace, or you don’t hit anything, or anyone, and you can throw in that cool move now and again, so much the better!

What’s the point in working on one’s technique so that it becomes second nature ? Or to continually study and analyze performance videos for hints, attempting to deconstruct what was done in order to glean self improvement ? Or daily solo practice ? Or listening to tango music not just for enjoyment but for familiarity and analysis ? Or taking weekly private lessons ? Or continuing to go to classes at all, or going to practica ? Or most importantly — engaging in self critical or critical self (and others) analysis of the structure of movements, foot placement, arm/hand placement, head position, forearm pressure, hand pressures, shoulder positions, or the detailed analysis of where one places one’s weight over which series of metatarsals and when!

All of that stuff seems…ummm…pointless ? Right ?

Is this perfectionism ? No. It is for one perspective seen as working too hard. Tango is supposed to be easy (ha!), fun. And focus on all that detail is just…a waste of time.

Whatyou may not realize is that ‘work’ and critical self analysis is done in the pursuit of wanting to dance with better and better partners, and more importantly preparing oneself to dance with those better partners. It is an immersion into thinking, breathing, dreaming, eating tango 24/7. And quite honestly that way of being threatens some folks and makes them feel inadequate that they’re not doing enough. And some folks could give a shit, they’re happy with what they are doing. They see nothing wrong with what is going on with their dancing abilities and see no reason to change it.

And that’s the problem right there in a nutshell: the perception that everything is ‘ok’. When in fact it’s not. There’s the hanging, the pulling, the pushing and that’s just the tip of the proverbial iceberg.

Seeing, reading, talking about, anaylysing, criticizing, or engaging in any or all of the above, for some people, takes away the ‘fun’ aspect. Yes those same people may mouth the words of “improvement” but when it comes right down to it…not so much with that. They have commitments, lives, things going on…and tango is just that thing that they go to once a week, sometimes twice, that they have fun with.

And anything or anyone that pokes a hole in their well built justifications for not doing any or all of the above is “perfectionism” or at the very least ‘arrogant presumption’.

MORE REMINDERS

Tango Improvement

You say the words, “I want to get better”. You mouth them as you watch the latest performance tango video on youtube. While at the same time, the thought flashes in your mind that you should schedule a private or two with X. ‘X’ being the local variant that teaches what you ‘believe in’. This teacher is also the one that you have gone to before and from your perspective has ‘helped’ you.

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Good/Bad & Dancer/Teacher

At the beginning of our Tango lives, most people go to a Tango Class to learn how to dance Tango. Some people throw caution to the wind and just go to the Milonga and ‘learn’ on the dance floor sometimes with positive but most of the time with disastrous results. And some people take the route of skipping group classes all together and start with one-on-one sessions to begin their Tango journey.

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Toe vs. Heel (Follower) ?

In case you have been living under a rock, this Thought is going to shock you somewhat. There is a debate that has been raging for quite some time now. The debate ? Should the Follower step forward with their heel first, or their toe first ? Better known as the Heel or Toe debate only for Followers, not for Leads as is the usual debated topic.

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The Walking Debate

A good portion of Follower’s close their eyes while dancing. The Lead, obviously, can’t close their eyes, but they do cast their eyes towards the floor to watch their Follower’s feet (tsk, tsk, tsk). They close their eyes for a variety of reasons: 1.) To be able to concentrate better. 2.) To ‘feel’ their partner in a more ‘connected’ way. 3.) To not be so distracted by the rest of the room. 4.) To feel more intimate. 5.) To tune out.

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Milan for Followers

A good spot for Followers to plan their next Tango vacation is: Milano. Why ? Several reasons. 1.) The men dress nicely for Milongas. No. It’s true. They actually dress up for Milongas. And as has said before in Vol 3. (Truism 1096), nothing screams ‘come hither’ more to a woman than a man in a tailored suit! And in this case, usually the shoes are handmade as well. 2.) Then there’s the fact that they smell nice.

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Couples

Couples, as a pair, develop their own shorthand for communicating with each other. They remark on events in their time together as ‘that time we did that thing when that thing happened, remember ?’. They invest their emotional time in each other as caring, loving (hopefully), partners that genuinely are invested in each other’s successes (hopefully). In one respect they are to each other intimates, while at the same time they see each other as support mechanisms, and so much more.

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La Viruta

Let’s get the details out of the way. The sight lines are awful. It’s dark, pitch dark in certain parts of the room. It’s crowded, and hot even with the A.C on in the ‘summer’. The drinks are expensive. The tables are small, assuming you can find one or have reserved one (which is recommended). The ‘hot’ area, meaning a place to ‘get’ dances, in the room is in front of the bar at the back left side of the room, and the entrance fee is on par with everywhere else (see end). There’s a restaurant upstairs, and on Mondays and Tuesday nights there is Salsa there. The rest of the week, it’s all Tango baby. There are classes nearly every night of the week, for different levels.

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Compression

Compression’ means that you’re either pulling your partner into you and/or at the same time restricting their movements in a myriad of ways (hand, arm, head). As a Lead this typically manifests itself with your right forearm. As a Follower compression is typically done with your left forearm around your lead’s shoulder (tsk, tsk, tsk, it should not be there).  

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Variation

Repetition is only good in horseshoes and hand grenades. Which is to say, that no one, absolutely no one, likes being led to the same thing over and over and over again. Variation is the key to success! Small variation, large variations that open doors to other ideas, other thoughts. But in the end, variation. Taking an idea and then reversing it, or slowing it down, speeding it up, speeding up a part of it (musically), slowing down a piece of it, taking off the beginning or the end and reversing their positions. This is variation.

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