There’s nothing nicer than a warm, cuddly embrace. Unfortunately a good portion of the time that embrace is marred by too much compression (in 1 of 5 or all 5 possible problem areas), engaging unneeded resistance, too much physiological pressure in any one of the 5 areas. The embrace is there as a construct, a frame if you will, to give the dance it’s iconic look. However it’s not there to be used to push, or pull or to hang on your partners. The independent, and skilled dancer does not need or rely on the embrace for stability or to ‘communicate’ in overt ways, but rather resides in smaller and smaller physiological cues from their partner, which is far more desirable. It’s also the reason that some people will not dance with you because you do not employ this way of dancing. So the cuddly embrace can happen, but only if both partners do not need to rely on each other at all for stability in any way, shape, or form.
Practice (part 1)
For most people the idea of practice is about practicing the dancing part. Not about the actual "practicing" part. Practice really wants to take apart what one does, how one does it, while asking for feedback & input. Then asking questions, and then figuring out where things aren’t working and why, to smooth out the rough edges of something, and then continually refine, and refine, and refine it so that it becomes effortless.