Perfectionism

There are those of us that separate being ‘good’ as being good enough, and anything beyond that is just ‘unnecessary’. It’s really about getting around the floor, and if no one complains about the embrace, or you don’t hit anything, or anyone, and you can throw in that cool move now and again, so much the better!

What’s the point in working on one’s technique so that it becomes second nature ? Or to continually study and analyze performance videos for hints, attempting to deconstruct what was done in order to glean self improvement ? Or daily solo practice ? Or listening to tango music not just for enjoyment but for familiarity and analysis ? Or taking weekly private lessons ? Or continuing to go to classes at all, or going to practica ? Or most importantly — engaging in self critical or critical self (and others) analysis of the structure of movements, foot placement, arm/hand placement, head position, forearm pressure, hand pressures, shoulder positions, or the detailed analysis of where one places one’s weight over which series of metatarsals and when!

All of that stuff seems…ummm…pointless ? Right ?

Is this perfectionism ? No. It is for one perspective seen as working too hard. Tango is supposed to be easy (ha!), fun. And focus on all that detail is just…a waste of time.

Whatyou may not realize is that ‘work’ and critical self analysis is done in the pursuit of wanting to dance with better and better partners, and more importantly preparing oneself to dance with those better partners. It is an immersion into thinking, breathing, dreaming, eating tango 24/7. And quite honestly that way of being threatens some folks and makes them feel inadequate that they’re not doing enough. And some folks could give a shit, they’re happy with what they are doing. They see nothing wrong with what is going on with their dancing abilities and see no reason to change it.

And that’s the problem right there in a nutshell: the perception that everything is ‘ok’. When in fact it’s not. There’s the hanging, the pulling, the pushing and that’s just the tip of the proverbial iceberg.

Seeing, reading, talking about, anaylysing, criticizing, or engaging in any or all of the above, for some people, takes away the ‘fun’ aspect. Yes those same people may mouth the words of “improvement” but when it comes right down to it…not so much with that. They have commitments, lives, things going on…and tango is just that thing that they go to once a week, sometimes twice, that they have fun with.

And anything or anyone that pokes a hole in their well built justifications for not doing any or all of the above is “perfectionism” or at the very least ‘arrogant presumption’.

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Dancing In Berlin

Berlin is known for many reasons around the world, it’s culture, it’s Berlin accent of German, it’s fact as a post-cold war city, and most recently the financial capital of Europe. Tango was certainly not on that list. If however, you happen to be a Tango dancer, and at a very specific place in your dance, then you have heard Yoda-like whispers of “Berlin…you should go to Berlin…”. There’s a reason for those whispers, which has turned into ‘talk’. It’s because there is a reason for all the ‘fuss’ over Tango in Berlin.

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Follower Bashing

All too often a good portion of Followers get the short end of the stick as it were. They’re blamed for missing this or that, not having enough resistance (a major no-no), not pushing, not leaning enough (false apilodo another major no-no), not stepping in the right place, not keeping up with the lead, etc. They’re blamed for a host of things from walking, to musical interpretation. After a while they develop a complex of just taking responsibility for almost everything that happens that isn’t desirable in the dance, instead of the Lead taking rightful responsibility for what’s been led! This is known as ‘Bashing The Follower’.

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The Practica

The idea of a Practica is ‘theoretically’ to Practice what you have learned. To try out what you have been shown, with multiple partners, as if you were in a class rotation. It is ‘theoretical’ because while the theory is nice, the reality is a little different.

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The Follower’s Work

The Follower’s Work. These words may come as a surprise to you dear reader considering that this page has seemingly ‘bashed’ or disparaged the role of the Follow in any number of ways, however: The role of the Follower is work. This is by no means a complete list, but just a taste: A Follower must master in order to ‘dance’ with a particular Lead their stability, their walk backwards, and forwards to the side without wobbling.

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The Male Follower

This post isn’t about the benefits of Following for the Male that dances, of which there are many, such as hyper awareness of all the things you do not want to do. No. Nor is this post about dancing in heels (which can be quite educational on many, many levels), nor the benefits of actually doing that work. Nor is this post about the simple fact that some men do enjoy Following quite a bit (the author included) and are actually (contrary to what you might believe) pretty good at it. No. Today’s Tango Thought is all about Men That WANT to Follow and some pointers that you want to think about doing.

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Giving Up Tango

There comes a point in your Tango life for one of several reasons where you find yourself in an odd place – the want to give up Tango. The most common reason is that you’re just not getting the same thing from the dance as you used to get from it. You go to Milongas. You find yourself sitting more, talking more, and dancing less.

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The Walking Debate

A good portion of Follower’s close their eyes while dancing. The Lead, obviously, can’t close their eyes, but they do cast their eyes towards the floor to watch their Follower’s feet (tsk, tsk, tsk). They close their eyes for a variety of reasons: 1.) To be able to concentrate better. 2.) To ‘feel’ their partner in a more ‘connected’ way. 3.) To not be so distracted by the rest of the room. 4.) To feel more intimate. 5.) To tune out.

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Wine & Tango

Stop and think about something for a moment: Wine is alcohol (duh). Alcohol is a depressant, not a stimulant, it lowers our inhibitions, and ability for rational thought. It allows for us to do things while under it’s effects (inebriation) that we wouldn’t normally do. Like for instance, ‘drunk dial the ex’, or taken to the extreme – driving while intoxicated (tsk, tsk, tsk). Typically the average ‘wine’ drinker never gets beyond the tipsy stage….they can ‘hold their liquor’ as it were.

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Posture

As has been said, many times, which is exceptionally important, and is frequently mentioned by many dancers almost immediately is: Posture.

Posture for most people boils down to the following two lines:

“Head up!”.

“Elongate your Spinal Column.”

This is a ‘good’ posture for most people.

Sounds easy enough, right ? Just lift your head up, and then ummmm ‘elongate’ your spinal column.

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Spectrum of Ideas.

Because there are no ‘Standards & Practices’ in Tango, therefore ‘Right’/’Wrong’ are subjective, which are for the most part, based on your teacher’s point of view of how things should be done. And as a result you, the unwitting student, take one those ideas as your own because you believe that because X is teaching that they must be the soul of all wisdom. Very infrequently do tango teachers teach a fair and balanced, or well rounded point of view. They usually teach what their subscribe to in their Tango world view, what they agree with, and what their teacher showed them. Very infrequently will they teach something that is outside that world view.

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