Today’s #Tango Thought 042: Being Criticized.
Most people don’t enjoy being criticized for their lack of skills with Tango, they feel uncomfortable, ignorant, and embarrassed.
Erroneously this is attributed to ‘perfectionism’.
It's not ‘perfectionism’, it is honesty. And that honesty is absolutely required.
The truth is that this is Critical feedback, about what you're doing and how you're doing it, in exacting detail. The detail is absolutely crucial to your development as a dancer. Without that feedback you're living in an echo chamber of "you're doing good", "that's fabulous", and "well done". However, when you go out social dancing, you'll find that you will end up sitting most of the night for a variety of reasons because the echo chamber of lies doesn't match up with the reality of social dancing.
Essentially you want an honest assessment of your skills, honest feedback, clear, direct, clean, and dispassionate feedback about where you are, and what you're doing.
Unfortunately most people, when they hear the words "Criticize" or "Critical Feedback", they immediately turn off and disengage. They take it as a personal attack on them as a person, and not about what they're doing. It's negative instead of seen as room for improvement. People only want to hear what they're doing well at (especially North Americans!).
So getting Critical Feedback and being criticized is absolutely required to improve your dance.
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